Kandice's Story: Welcoming Motherhood While Seeking My Own Purpose

When I was a teenager, I never thought I would actually be a mom until I was in my mid thirties.

Like most kids, I dreamed my life would be to go to college and receive great education, move into my own place, explore life with no regrets, and be married by the time I turned 30.

As I graduated from high school and accepted into a university studying law, most would say I was on the right track on pursuing my dreams.

Then everything changed that summer right before sophomore year started, I got pregnant. I was only 20.

Scared to tell my parents, scared to tell the father, questioning my decisions, and wondering how can I be a mom now. I am just a kid.

But something deep down told me I can do this.

It's going to be freaking hard, the rest of my life will be different, my vision and dream won't be the same. But somehow, I became ok with it.

I decided to be a mom and if I have to do it alone, I will.

For seven years, I was a single mom to a healthy baby boy. He brought so much light into my life and I never knew what love really meant until I set my eyes on him. He pushed me to be the best person I can be, not only for him, but for myself as well.

Don't get me wrong, I've made plenty of bad decisions, that I do regret.

However, those same decisions helped me be a better person, woman, and mother.

So much that, I told him, I wouldn’t bring any guy around, until I knew he was the right one for me and be a great father to him.

When he was seven years old, I meet my best friend. He didn’t care about my melanin skin tone, that our age difference was 10 years apart, and most importantly that I had a son who I put first above anything.

He open heartedly took my son in as his own, protected him when bullies were messing with him, taught him how to ride a bike, and showed up for him emotionally.

A year and 1 miscarriage later, I was blessed with see the + sign on a pregnancy test.

Here I was again pregnant, but this time I wasn’t scared. I wasn't alone. I had my best friend and son with me to bask in the joy on adding to our family trio.

Ever since my youngest was born, I have felt so complete. I may be the only female of all boys, but my boys make me feel like a queen every day.

They are the reason why I never given up on my dreams and continue to push myself to be a badass woman.

I definitely have failed with numerous "careers" in the past, but they have pushed me to not give up. They pushed me so hard, that they even bought me the mic, stand, and website to start my podcast and blog. They knew I could express myself fully, connect with other woman, and really just have something of my own.

My boys are my rock.

Within 11 years, I went through dark times, but at the end of the day I still have my family by my side.  I am so grateful, because even though my dreams didn't go as planned, I still ended up happy, blessed, and with a family to call my own.


To connect with Kandice's journey and passions, check out her Instagram page!

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